Listening To The Whispers Of Your Heart. A Letter To My Children.

A letter to my children about turning life's lemons into lemonade and about finding your true passions in life. Listen to your mother and read this when you are feeling down.  Mama loves you.  xo

My precious Kiddie Cats,

When life gives us physical or mental pain to deal with and process and heal from, it also gives us time to reflect on stronger days. During this reflection we have the opportunity to either focus on all of the bad, or choose to scrape past the darkness in order to see the light - even if it takes longer than we'd like. Don't give up. Don't ever give up. We have to believe there is light or else the darkness will become too great and may pull us down deeper forever. 

Very recently, I have started on a journey - a path to positivity. On this journey I will surround myself with the things that fill my heart with deep happiness and great joy. You of course will be there on this journey with me, for your existence in my life is the greatest most magical gift I have ever been given. Without you and daddy, my life is not complete. The quickest way to reach this path for me is through nature. When I'm surrounded by nature and beauty, sunshine and fresh air I feel my soul waking up trying to speak to me. My body feels alive and electric. It's time to block out the noise so I can hear it. I've been stubborn for far too long.

We have the power within us to overcome our set backs and take back the life and the joy that may have left for a while. It is OK to feel sadness when sadness comes. But it is important to seek out the happiness and focus your thoughts and energy into reaching your happiness again. Don't dwell on your sadness. Learn from it. Learn how to deal with it the next time it finds you. Today I spent a little bit of time alone breathing deeply, exhaling the negativity and looking inward as I walked along the ocean shore, toes digging into the sand and enjoying the crisp March water. I've been going to the chiropractor to deal with a recent back injury that has left me needing more help in all areas of our lives for the past month from Grammy and Daddy. When this happens as it has happened before, there is a guilt I can't describe that comes over me because I'm not able to be the mother I want to be physically and mentally - the mother you deserve because my pain is so great. I allowed it to take hold too tightly this time and I apologize for that. I'm learning how to shed the guilt. I'm choosing to look at it differently now and in the future and I'm putting all of my focus on healing, strength and positivity. 

This is what I came away with from my walk in the sunshine. This is my message for you today. I hope you read it when you need comfort and encouragement, support and love. For that is my forever gift to you.  

My children-

Be still and find your joy.

There is greatness to be found in taking the time to stop the daily merry-go-round from whirling so that you can truly focus on your surroundings and find the happiness in the pockets of stillness. 

In stillness comes creativity.

In peacefulness comes contentment. 

In quietness comes discovery.

There is always something to be found when there is nothing.

Discover the joy of nothing.

When we quiet the mind we awaken the soul and are able to hear the whispers of our heart. These heart whispers are the keys to unlock your inner peace and happiness. Once you start listening to the whispers of your heart you will discover the words to the song of your soul for these heart whispers are never wrong, my loves. 

They will never lie to you. 

They are your destiny. 

They are your truth. 

They form the beautiful garden of your life.

They have always been and always will be there. 

So sing your song and let it escape your lips loudly. 

Sing it everyday. 

Sing it every night.

Teach me the words so that I may sing it for you if you feel too weak to sing yourself.

Feel the words.

Breathe the words.

Be the words. 

Do not ever forget the song of your soul and most importantly, do not ever let anyone try to change your song to something they can sing easier or something that they like better. 

For you my child are the only one who hears your own heart whispers so that you can write your own song.

You hold the power to your happiness.

Oh, and don't forget your sunscreen because a life full of happiness is a life full of sunshine. 

Love,

Mommy

*Written by Colleen Duncan Canavan 3-2-13

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Spreading Some Positivity, Love & Light Out Into The Universe

Rainbow Handprints compliments of 1 year old Baby Brother and "LOVE note" compliments of moi.
I would be happy to paint you a LOVE note for you to enjoy.  Message me for details. ;-)

To all of the fabulous people who are reading this right now...yes, You especially. You ROCK btw. I mean like, you are seriously rad and unique and awesome. Let's put some POSITIVE ENERGY out into the world today, shall we? You have the power to spread happiness and positive energy.

But don't just post it or tweet it - BE IT!  Make the time to do something positive, say something positive and most importantly - believe that it can exist and feel it in your heart.

I'm incredibly disheartened by all of the negativity and hate-filled words I read on the internet every day. It just brings you down mentally, physically and emotionally. And honestly, it's not just the news about death and destruction. It's usually something one mother has said to another mother to argue their point and make her feel like she is a "bad mom" because they have different views and different parenting methods. I'm trying to teach my 4 year old that people's differences in this world are what make this world a beautiful place, yet we are so nasty and unyielding to each other because of these differences.

Let's change all that. It starts with us.

Women are leaders.
Women are strong.
Women are compassionate.
Women have the ability to continue to love and support people even in the greatest of obstacles.
Women have the ability to see the good in people.
Women have the power to turn something negative into something positive.
Women have the ability to look past the dark clouds and find the rainbow and know they will feel the warmth of the sun again.

Women who are also mothers have to ability to seize the day and live in the moment and appreciate the small things because we see in our children just how fast times flies. Choose to make the most of it.

Mothers can change the world through their children as well as themselves through their words and actions. They must agree. You can't have one without the other.  Do as I say AND do as I do - because they are one and the same.

We can make a difference and it starts with how we treat each other in real life, our loved ones and friends and people we meet on the street, but it's just as important to focus on how we treat strangers on the internet, because this has become "our real life" now. People live their whole lives on the internet and interact daily with people they may never meet or really know. So we now need to change how we treat "strangers" we come in contact with on a minute-by-minute basis online. Don't hide behind a computer screen in order to promote hatred. An argument on the internet can come and go very quickly for the ones who are having it, but because it's written down for all-time, our words can continue to hurt and damage others long after we've said it. Even if we grow and evolve and educate ourselves and change our own minds about what we were arguing about once, someone down the road can always read the negative thing we said about it. Including our own children someday!

Don't let negative thoughts and actions and words towards yourself and others be your legacy. 

Think of your child at the park with a bunch of kids playing in the sandbox. Follow their lead and assume that everyone is your friend and wave and smile with a pure heart and offer your shovel to build a sand castle together. If you learn differently about that person then you can go from there.

But lead with love.
Assume love.

You might just be surprised. Just because someone has a different way of parenting or living their lives does not make them better or worse than you and it doesn't mean you can't learn from each other. We all come into this world with a different perspective and a different set of things to teach each other. It's our job to grow and learn and create goodness, and happiness and positivity around us - but especially within us. If we are happy and positive, we can't help but teach happiness and positivity to our children and others.

If you have a twitter account, please copy and RT (re-tweet) the post below, making sure you can fit in the hashtag (#) #iChoose2BPositive :

"Plz RT: Let's start a Positivity Movement around the world today! Post InspiringQuotes, PosMssgs, WordsOf #LOVE #iChoose2BPositive"

And then be sure to tweet your own positive message to the world and include the hashtag: #iChoose2BPositive so it can all be found in one place.

If you don't have a twitter account then please post the message on your facebook page and encourage others to share as well.

We have the ability to change our attitude, which in turn can change our lives.
We hold all of the power to make ourselves happy with our thoughts and actions.
We parents can create a positive, happy environment in our household with our words AND actions.

Spread some love and light today and choose to either ignore the argument, "unfollow" or "hide" the negative page or person spreading negativity or choose to contribute with words of love and acceptance and support instead. There is always something to learn from every situation. Be the black sheep!  It's fun.

Aloha.
Namaste.
Peace.
Love & Light.
Carpe Diem.
#iChoose2BPositive
#LOVE

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”- Margaret Mead

"When you spread love to your children, they will spread love to the world!"
-Colleen Duncan Canavan

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